This issue caught my eye as I was scrolling through my Facebook feed. Some lady had asked for advice from married women in a certain Kenyan fb group, since her marriage was falling apart at six months only. What left me puzzled was the advice, as most said to tolerate because marriage was about that. lets sample some of the replies


I have never been married, but if the advice you will give me is tolerance, watching movies and reading books which are biased (favor men) when it comes to advice and being submissive, then don’t. What everyone should understand is that time changes, and so do norms, culture, traditions etc. Change is inevitable.

I believe a marriage should be about partnership, conflict resolution, monogamy, love, laughter, communication,  and happiness.

Sure, there will be misunderstandings here and there, but it shouldn’t be all about that. The term tolerance insinuates that its just downs on downs, no ups.And honestly the gender which carries this huge role of tolerance is women.

The analogue system of marriage is not working anymore. So we better create a new reality of the institution before it becomes extinct all together.

So, back to the facebook post. Not all the comments irked me as some ladies gave  some pretty good advice. Read them below


So what do you think? Should we stick to the traditional methods or adopt new ones when it comes to this institution? let me know in the comments section



15 of the best life quotes and secrets

There’s no life manual that we can follow when we are alive. But there are life tips and secrets which help us overcome everyday hurdles. I have put together my favorite quotes from different sources to inspire anyone in need of it. Lets face it, we all need a little motivation now and then.You can also read some of the best truths and inspiration i have come across

  1. Only pack what you can carry yourself.
  2. Remember you will always regret what you didn’t do rather than what you did.
  3. If the grass is greener on the other side, there’s probably more manure there.
  4. Wait 24 hours before getting mad and reacting about anything. If it doesn’t bother you in 24 hours’ time, it probably isn’t important enough to get mad over.
  5. Happiness is a choice and everything else is a matter of perspective.
  6. Figure out what you love to do, and then figure out how to get someone to pay you to do it.
  7. Live in the moment. Even 10 minutes ago is the past.
  8. This too, shall pass.
  9. Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life: define yourself.
  10. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
  11. Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you will be criticized anyway.
  12. It’s supposed to be hard. If it were easy, everyone would do it.
  13. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not act, but a habit.
  14. It doesn’t hurt to love. It hurts to love the wrong person.
  15. Everything you can imagine is real. –Pablo Picasso                  Related  some of the best truths and inspiration i have come across

     awesome quotes on life


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